So for context, I was chilling on PS yesterday playing unrated randbats as one does. In one match, a fortunate match up meant I won 6-0. Now this is no big deal as it's unrated - it literally counts for nothing. However, he was not happy, as shown below (anonymous as I don't want repercussions for him):
I'll admit I was rather antagonising, but the line that I've highlighted in bold really pinged me. So I tried to see if there was more to it, leading to the following exchange:
After this followed an hour and a half long discussion about why he was so depressed. I won't post the details but he was really in a bad state and my heart really goes out to him.
So what did I learn? Well obviously the big one is that if someone is trolling a community as niche/nerdy as this, chances are they've got issues that are bubbling over (this is probably not that shocking in hindsight but still). The other one for me was a reminder that "success stories" are one of the worst things to hear about when you're down in the dumps, as it adds to the despair, rather than providing hope.
Discussion:
(Ngl I only put this in cong as it didn't fit anywhere else, so this bit is pretty much here to meet the requirements for a thread)
Should we consider approaching rude users differently? Is a deep chat the better alternative to a mute/lock from talking?
It's definitely worth considering that everyone is ultimately a human being and maybe some of them just need a hug.
The topic of mental health is rather important to me, so I hope I can ultimately help people to help one another. As a wise Meowth once said,
"We do have a lot in common. The same air, the same Earth, the same sky. Maybe if we started looking at what's the same instead of always looking at what's different, ...well, who knows?”
EnzoLapras won the battle!
Him: WOOOOOW
Him: FUCKING WOW
EnzoLapras: it doesnt matter
Him: shut the FUCK UP
EnzoLapras: as its unrated
Him: when i get fucked over it silll pisses me off
EnzoLapras: shit happens
Him: fuck off with that
Him: you got handed the fucking win
Him: hows it feel, cunt?
EnzoLapras: and the win doesnt count for shit
Him: i DONT FUCKING CARE
EnzoLapras: the only joy i get is seeing your reaction tbh
Him: hur hur go ahead
EnzoLapras: otherwise i wouldnt care at all
Him: post it on reddit and get 3 karma, you fucking shit
EnzoLapras: i would if i cared, or had reddit
Him: still
Him: fuck off and die
EnzoLapras: lololol
Him: FUCKING END YOUR WORTHLESS LIIIIIIIFE
Him: WOOOOOW
Him: FUCKING WOW
EnzoLapras: it doesnt matter
Him: shut the FUCK UP
EnzoLapras: as its unrated
Him: when i get fucked over it silll pisses me off
EnzoLapras: shit happens
Him: fuck off with that
Him: you got handed the fucking win
Him: hows it feel, cunt?
EnzoLapras: and the win doesnt count for shit
Him: i DONT FUCKING CARE
EnzoLapras: the only joy i get is seeing your reaction tbh
Him: hur hur go ahead
EnzoLapras: otherwise i wouldnt care at all
Him: post it on reddit and get 3 karma, you fucking shit
EnzoLapras: i would if i cared, or had reddit
Him: still
Him: fuck off and die
EnzoLapras: lololol
Him: FUCKING END YOUR WORTHLESS LIIIIIIIFE
I'll admit I was rather antagonising, but the line that I've highlighted in bold really pinged me. So I tried to see if there was more to it, leading to the following exchange:
[22:33:26] Him: die
[22:33:39] EnzoLapras: i'll pass
[22:34:02] Him: ill do it instead
[22:34:03] Him: cunt
[22:34:12] EnzoLapras: good luck with that
[22:34:21] Him: wont be hard
[22:34:49] EnzoLapras: oh really?
[22:34:58] Him: to end myself? yeah
[22:35:10] EnzoLapras: no i meant for you to kill me
[22:35:18] Him: i wasnt talking about that
[22:35:36] Him: i meant ill die instead
[22:35:37] EnzoLapras: don't kill yourself please, get help first
[22:35:43] Him: whatever
[22:36:02] EnzoLapras: i hate to be antagonising, but you seem troubled
[22:36:07] Him: im not worth anything anyway
[22:36:14] EnzoLapras: yes you are dude
[22:36:34] Him: i just freaked out about an unrated random battle
[22:36:37] Him: thats enough reason
[22:37:07] EnzoLapras: that doesn't mean you arent worthless though
[22:37:19] Him: oh i am
[22:37:25] EnzoLapras: you mean a hell of a lot to some people
[22:37:40] Him: which means i have to stay around and suffer
[22:33:39] EnzoLapras: i'll pass
[22:34:02] Him: ill do it instead
[22:34:03] Him: cunt
[22:34:12] EnzoLapras: good luck with that
[22:34:21] Him: wont be hard
[22:34:49] EnzoLapras: oh really?
[22:34:58] Him: to end myself? yeah
[22:35:10] EnzoLapras: no i meant for you to kill me
[22:35:18] Him: i wasnt talking about that
[22:35:36] Him: i meant ill die instead
[22:35:37] EnzoLapras: don't kill yourself please, get help first
[22:35:43] Him: whatever
[22:36:02] EnzoLapras: i hate to be antagonising, but you seem troubled
[22:36:07] Him: im not worth anything anyway
[22:36:14] EnzoLapras: yes you are dude
[22:36:34] Him: i just freaked out about an unrated random battle
[22:36:37] Him: thats enough reason
[22:37:07] EnzoLapras: that doesn't mean you arent worthless though
[22:37:19] Him: oh i am
[22:37:25] EnzoLapras: you mean a hell of a lot to some people
[22:37:40] Him: which means i have to stay around and suffer
After this followed an hour and a half long discussion about why he was so depressed. I won't post the details but he was really in a bad state and my heart really goes out to him.
So what did I learn? Well obviously the big one is that if someone is trolling a community as niche/nerdy as this, chances are they've got issues that are bubbling over (this is probably not that shocking in hindsight but still). The other one for me was a reminder that "success stories" are one of the worst things to hear about when you're down in the dumps, as it adds to the despair, rather than providing hope.
Discussion:
(Ngl I only put this in cong as it didn't fit anywhere else, so this bit is pretty much here to meet the requirements for a thread)
Should we consider approaching rude users differently? Is a deep chat the better alternative to a mute/lock from talking?
It's definitely worth considering that everyone is ultimately a human being and maybe some of them just need a hug.
The topic of mental health is rather important to me, so I hope I can ultimately help people to help one another. As a wise Meowth once said,
"We do have a lot in common. The same air, the same Earth, the same sky. Maybe if we started looking at what's the same instead of always looking at what's different, ...well, who knows?”